The other day, I was talking with a fellow coach who reached out for some support. She was feeling overwhelmed and said, “I just feel stuck.”
As she spoke, I could feel the quiet worry behind her words. That sense that if we’re not moving forward fast enough, we must somehow be falling behind.
What came through for me to share with her was simple but powerful:
You’re not moving forward. You’re not moving backward. And you’re not stuck. You’re right where you need to be.
The Illusion of “Stuck”
It’s easy to convince ourselves that we’re off track. We look around at our circumstances, compare where we are to where we thought we’d be, and make meaning out of it. We start telling ourselves, “Something’s wrong. I’m not doing enough. I must have lost my way.”
But what if that’s not true at all?
What if right where you are is the exact terrain required for your transformation? What if everything that feels messy, uncertain, or uncomfortable isn’t evidence that you’re off your path, but proof that you’re on it?
You Are Not Derailed
When we label ourselves as “stuck,” we often create more resistance. We tighten up. We push harder. We double down on trying to fix things, which only clogs our natural creative flow.
But you cannot be off course inside your own becoming.
Right where you are is absolutely perfect. Even if it feels chaotic. Even if it feels like nothing’s moving. Even if you can’t yet see what’s forming.
You haven’t stopped evolving. You’re simply in the tender, in-between space where new life is organizing itself beneath the surface.
Of Course It’s Coming Up
So much of what we interpret as “wrong” is actually part of the process of expansion.
When you’re growing into a greater version of yourself, the patterns, fears, doubts, and emotions that don’t match the new frequency naturally rise up to beckon you back to the safety of the familiar.
Of course the anger, the old stories, or the fear of failing come up.
Of course the urgency to figure things out rushes in.
Of course the discomfort surfaces.
They’re not signs that you’ve gone backward. They’re reminders of where you’ve been. Invitations to choose differently now.
Stop Making Meaning Out of the Mess
One of the sneakiest traps of transformation is that we make meaning out of the mess.
We look at our circumstances and tell stories about what they mean: “I’m behind.” “I’m not enough.” “Maybe I’m not cut out for this?” “I should be further along by now.”
But what if those stories are simply the mind’s way of trying to stay in control?
The mind loves certainty. It labels, measures, and judges progress. But transformation is not linear. It unfolds in curves and layers, like nature itself. Sometimes it looks like stillness before movement, or chaos before clarity.
So instead of asking, “What’s wrong with me?” try asking, “What if nothing’s wrong at all?”
Trust the Process
What if you’re not supposed to be sprinting forward right now?
What if you’re not supposed to have the next step fully figured out?
What if this exact moment, this space of uncertainty, these emotions, this pause, is sacred ground?
You’re not being punished for standing still. You’re preparing for receiving what’s more.
And the preparation sometimes looks like stillness. Sometimes it looks like tears. Sometimes it looks like questioning everything you thought you knew.
That isn’t regression. It’s transformation in real time.
Everything You Want Is Here
Here’s the truth I keep coming back to: everything you desire already exists in potential right now.
You’re not waiting for something outside of you to click into place. The possibilities you long for are already here, waiting for you to recognize and align with them.
When you release the story that you’re behind or off track, your energy opens. You become available to the ideas, insights, and alignments that were always present but veiled beneath self-judgment.
Be Gentle With Yourself
If things feel messy right now, if you’re uncertain, emotional, or questioning where you stand, let that be okay.
It doesn’t mean you’re failing. It means you’re feeling. It means you’re alive and engaged in your own unfolding.
Growth often feels like confusion before it feels like clarity, because your old way of being doesn’t match the life you’re living into. It’s the Law of Sacrifice in action – giving up the current pattern of life for the greater.
So today, take a breath.
You’re not moving forward. You’re not moving backward. And you’re not stuck.
You’re right where you need to be, within the unfolding of your own evolution.
Consider this quote from my mentor, Mary Morrissey, “The content of our life is the curriculum of our evolution.”
