When it comes to serving a vision or dream for our lives, let’s face it- sometimes we can get in our own heads!

When that happens, it’s so valuable to have a coach or mentor who sees your blind spots when you can’t. 

Recently, my coach helped me simplify my perspective in a way that I think may be helpful for you, too.

No matter where you are in your journey, whether you know there’s something more for you but you don’t know what it is, (or how to get it)… Or, you know exactly what you want but you want to get it faster and without the struggle…

There’s a universal principle that will ALWAYS apply:

Follow the expansion.

When we tune into the choices available to us in any given moment, there will be a feeling of expansion or contraction. 

Ways to know that something feels contractive:

• There’s a knot in your stomach or heavy feeling
• It’s coming from a place of fear or self-doubt
• If makes you feel smaller, like you’re settling
• It may feel like the “safer” or “rational” choice but not joyful
• It feels yucky or simply like a “no” in your body
• You “should” do it, but you don’t love it

Ways to know that something feels expansive:

• There’s a feeling of your energy getting bigger
• It feels inspiring, even if it feels a little scary, too!
• It feels like you have to grow and stretch yourself
• There’s a sense of aliveness, joy or “lightness”
• It feels like a “yes” in your body even if you have no idea how you would ever do it
• You love it

An easy way to think of this is, imagine eating your absolute favorite food and how “light” the thought of that feels in your body. Then, think about eating a food you can’t stand and how your energy “contracts” just thinking about it. That’s how you sense expansion and contraction in your body.

Here’s why this is important:

Expansion and contraction are signals that act as an inner compass to guide you in your life. 

When you make a choice from what you would love- from what feels expansive- you are on the right track. When you make a choice based on fear, doubt or what you “should” want, a choice that feels contractive, you go a little bit off course. 

I had an experience recently where I was visioning for my family dream home. But as I’m envisioning myself in the property, I noticed myself feeling guilty that I wasn’t focused on my business. 

So, I brought this to my coach, and the clarity she brought to me is important for you, too.

She said, “Everything is connected.” She told me to notice when I feel expansion and FOLLOW it. 

What she meant, is that my vision for my family dream home is connected to my business and everything else. 

And, that it’s not only nice to follow what feels expansive… it’s ESSENTIAL that I love what I’m doing.

Here’s why:

Serving my family dream home vision is a frequency in resonance with all aspects of my vision. So, when I follow expansion in that area, it shifts me into the frequency of my vision and uplifts me in ALL areas. 

This perspective freed me up from feeling I have to do all these “shoulds.” 

By tuning into the expansive frequency of the dream home vision, and taking action for that, I now know what it FEELS like to “follow the expansion.” I have an energetic template that I can apply to every area of my life as expansion pulls me in new directions.

Trust what feels expansive and go with it. It is essential. 

So if you are judging yourself for pursuing a hobby, or something that feels life-giving instead of something more “practical” or what you “should” be focused on… 

I challenge you to trust the process, take action and know that it IS leading you in the right direction for all areas of your life.